The last bout of depression for me was just a few years ago. During this time, I must have read every self help book available along with watching endless YouTube videos of Eckhart Tolle and Oprah telling me to be more mindful and to seek peace.
Now, those of us who have had the unfortunate experience with this illness will know that no amount of positive thinking helps. When we are in the depths of darkness and hopelessness that accompanies depression, it really does feel permanent and not even listening to Oprah can pull us out. (Not me anyway, and that also puts a lot of pressure on Ms. Winfrey.)
What helped me through, and continues to, is a form of "action" (an action plan). It is to consistently do something for yourself everyday to begin the healing, to find remission and to feel the hope.
After all, depression is an illness, just like any other medical condition that needs tending to. It most likely won't go away if you do not take care of it. How we approach the treatment is unique and what may work for some may do absolutely nothing for others. Whatever it is, take your time to figure it out and make a commitment to yourself everyday. That is where the remedy is hidden and possible relapse is prevented.
I did happen to read something that spoke to me when I had depression. It came from an old book of Daily Affirmations which I found at a friends house. I believe it belonged to her dad's A.A literature. I wrote it down in my journal, which actually confirmed this theory for me. I kept it all these years to remind myself of what I already believed and knew about depression, which is-: it takes time, a bit of will and a lot of kindness towards oneself until you can begin to feel better.
Little by little, day by day...
A Way Out of Depression
During acute depression, avoid trying to set your whole life in order all at once. If you take on assignments so heavy that you are sure to fail in them at the moment, then you are allowing yourself to be trided by your unconscious. Thus you will continue to make sure of your failure, and when it comes you will have another alibi for still more retreat into depression.
In short, the all or nothing approach attitude is a most destructive one. It is best to begin with whatever the irreducible minimums of a activity are. Then work for an enlargement of these day by day. Don't be disconcerted by setbacks, just start over.
With light and love,
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